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By Jeff Cohen.

You've just invested your hard-earned dollars in an online dating site. After a few hours you have what you believe is the perfect online profile. You kick back, waiting for the prospects to roll in. Day after day goes by -- but still your inbox is empty.

Where did you go wrong? How could you have misjudged your online attractiveness?

Maybe you inadvertently sabotaged your chances by making one of these 10 online profile mistakes.

·#1 - Profiles With No Photos

Depending on which research you believe, the photo represents anywhere from 50 to 90 percent of your first impression. Omitting photos also creates a first impression: it may signal you have something to hide or that you're not proud of the way you look.

·#2 - Photos That Look Too Good to Be True

Might someone confuse your photos with a magazine spread? If so, it's possible your photos look too good. Prospects will begin to wonder if the real-life version of you will look anything like the model depicted in the profile.

·#3 - Screen Names That Are Too Cutesy

 

An original idea for a screen name hits you like a bolt of lightning. You'll call yourself LuvDamesNoGames. Yes it rhymes, but might the word "dames" offend some prospects and send the signal you're old-fashioned?

 

·#4 - Profiles That Read Like Generic Ads

Sure, you're anxious to get online and surf for prospects. That doesn't mean you should rush your profile and fill in the first thing that comes to your mind. If your profile reads like everyone else's, it simply won't stand out from the crowd.

·#5 - Profiles With Contradictory Information

In the opening paragraph you detail your desire for a serious relationship. But later in the profile you rave about the benefits of casual dating. Contradicting yourself confuses prospects and makes them believe you have no idea what you want.

·#6 - Photos With Friends

Maybe you want to send the message that you're a social creature. Unfortunately, prospects will automatically compare you to the other people in the photo. And they might decide they'd rather date your friend than you.

·#7 - Photos With the Ex Cut Out

We can all tell when a photo used to have someone next to you. If the best photo you ever took happens to have your ex in the picture, then do yourself a favor and post your second best photo.

 

 

·#8 - Profiles Full of Spelling Mistakes

Take 30 seconds and run a spell check on your profile before posting. Nothing says laziness like spelling mistakes.

Show prospects you care about your profile and they'll think you just might care about them too.

·#9 - Lies, Lies, Lies

It's tempting to tell people what you think they want to hear. You might even think you'll score more prospects that way. But sooner or later you'll get found out and develop a negative reputation online.

·#10 - Jokes That Are Offensive

We all know a sense of humor goes a long way in making a great impression. But jokes that offend will backfire and get you canceled out right away. Run your profile humor past a trusted friend to make sure it serves the right purpose.

 

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Jeff Cohen is the author of "Dating Inc.," that shows women and men a step-by-step plan for finding true love using the same skills that already make them successful at work. Jeff has appeared on CNN, CBS, and Voice of America, and been interviewed by USA Today, Daily News, Denver Post, the Chicago Tribune, the Boston Herald, and Martha Stewart Living Radio. He earned degrees in marketing from the Wharton School of Business and psychology from the University of Pennsylvania and readily admits taking charge of his love life through a game plan that included 77 blind dates before he found the one,





-- Edited by Kitty at 00:17, 2007-12-31