There is nothing more impressive to a woman than a man who writes well, spells correctly and doesn't sound in his profile as if he is God's gift to society. Someone who is sincere and kind is a blessing that most women look for. A woman can tell so much from one profile just by the words that he expresses. I personally think that a profile with no picture, is a waste of time, as I will skim over those pages and search for a man who is not afraid to show his true self. .It can be refreshing to view a typical normal man, be he bald, a little plump, too short, or too tall. It sends a message that we are not all drop dead gorgeous people, and makes others more willing to allow others to view us as we are.
I must admit that I have viewed some pretty sloppy looking men as well as women, which to most people can be a true turn off. Men with Big Cigars hanging out of their mouth's who state they are the life of the party, are not generally the type of men that a normal woman is attracted to.
Women bearing too much skin and a seductive sneer are not always a man's idea of a girl to take home to meet the family either. I have viewed pictures of men hanging on a woman and think, how rude when thinking a woman would be impressed by that display of disregard. Woman also check out the background of a picture, and if the man is pictured in an environment that may be his home, please realize that a woman WILL notice the torn furniture, the clutter, the bags of garbage, and the beer bottles lying in the near vicinity of the person portrayed. (Of course the same is true for the women too.)
They may be simple little mistakes not meant to discourage one's interest, but we all must use a little consideration when posting our profiles.
Please save your kid pics and especially that photo of your huge great Dane for the 2nd date, not on your profile layout. We are not here to date your child or pet... family and friends are ok as a low order of magnitude in photo layout order. Show a full body shot, not just a Glamour head shot. If you are big... be Big, Beautiful, and Proud!
Also, NEVER say... "I am a single Mom of an X year old daughter who is the center of my universe"... If you have to state the obvious, (which really means you are not ready for the dating world) then say: "Responsible parent of a wonderful X year old daughter with much more to offer" Someone needs to post a Creative Writing 101 course for How to win admirers! I just wrote the preface...
One thing I'd urge women to do is NOT to start off by screaming what you DON'T want (i.e., hollering that you don't want cheaters, liars, etc.) Of course, no sane woman wants this kind of man, but to start off with negatives gives off the impression that you are a very disagreeable girl. Be sunny and creative. I think the biggest mistake I see in profiles of women is emphasizing what they don't want, rather than what they do.
Let's face it we are living in a world of good and evil. You can meet someone out, go out on a date and he can be a stalker. You are not going to be harmed if you have a picture on your profile, meet your date in public and don't give out private info where you live too soon. It is such a turn-off to see MEN and WOMAN starting off with "NO GAMES, LIARS, CHEATS, PHONIES, ETC!!!!""" LOL I find it personally amusing, however know right off the bat these people really need to change their attitude and or are just plain negative/destructive themselves. The basis of a profile is to be positive/upbeat, honest, don’t give away too much info, be interesting, state what you're looking for and post a nice pic!
Here's a tip for men. When writing your profile please don't include how well in Dowd you are or ask if there's any good kissers out their. That's a good way to not get a date and it's a real turnoff. I had a guy send me an e-mail with that information. He was very good looking and interested me until I read his ad.
I'm quite proud of the way I look, but I don't want to attract the kind of person who reads my profile just because of my appearance. If they like my profile, then they should take the time to communicate and find out if we have similar interests. Once that has been established, I would be happy to send a picture.
Men: While I think your personal hobbies and interests are great. I'm not interested in a picture of you, back to nature, with your prize buck or your hot rod. I want to see you, up close and personal, minus the scenery. Additionally, saying that you want a woman that enjoys fishing and attending professional sporting events is like me saying that I want a man who enjoys weekly manicures and shopping trips. It's not likely to happen and if it did, you probably wouldn’t be interested. Good luck finding that fisherwoman that smells great with soft, smooth hands and gorgeous skin. That is not to say that we can't humour each other from time to time with a fishing or shopping trip (but don't ask me to bait my own hook). I also agree with NOT posting photos of your children for safety reasons. Think about it.
