How To Make A Good Start With A New Girlfriend View From Venus
Be one in a million, not one of a million. Natasha Leitao tells you how to be an awesome new boyfriend.
Who doesn’t love board games? When it’s played with their heads and emotions, women don’t. Contrary to the word on the street, it is not that difficult to keep women happy in a new relationship. Why at the beginning, you ask? Well, a happy foundation can help to ensure a pleasant established relationship. We’re not asking for much: consistency and general interest in our life is a good start.
Now, most of the women in my life are adept at taking care of themselves, being independent and having a life. However, in a relationship, we expect certain things of our men; likewise, there are reasonable demands placed on us. Let’s review this laundry list, shall we?
Lazy Bones
Many a woman I have spoken with has complained at some point of a new man who is plumb lazy. By this, I mean that she goes on this great date with a guy, he says he also had a fabulous time with her, and either a) says “we should hang again sometime – give me a call” or b) never contacts her. These are both the epitome of weaseliness.
Guys, when you pull this act on us, it does not reflect well on you, no matter what your excuse. If you think a girl is the cat’s pajamas and you can envisage some sort of a future with her, don’t make her do the work. Because when that happens, it is the ultimate turn-off. If you like us, just phone us! The telephone call can be purely functional. Tell her what a nice time you had with her and ask if she would like to do it again. End of story.
Oh, and e-mails, texts, instant messaging, telegraphs, Morse code, etc. do not count. Unless you live on a deserted island with no cellular reception, pick up the phone and call her.
Dress The Part
Women can take a heck of a lot of time to prepare for dates. Yes, we want to look stunning for ourselves, but we mainly do it for you. So when you pick us up in a ketchup-stained t-shirt and jeans with holes where holes are not intended to be, it indicates a form of disrespect. It shows that you do not think enough of us (or yourself, for that matter) to clean yourself up to at least be in a presentable state. Conversely, if you think your girl looks gorgeous, communicate that to her. Keep it real.
Make Her Feel Special
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Flowers work like a charm. It’s a sweet, innocent gesture that is timeless and makes us happy. Bringing and/or making her favourite food is also a good way to go. Go out of your way to do little things for her. If she’s dying to see the Impressionists’ exhibit at the local art gallery, take her to see it and enjoy it with her. Skywriting her name along with your name is flamboyant and unnecessary. However, smaller acts, such as watching Sex in the City, with her when you would rather be having sex in the city, is just endearing. Oh, and by the way, we will reciprocate. We know that relationships aren’t a one-way street.
Foot the Bill
Now, I realize what I am about to say may anger the masses, but I think there is some secret accordance with this statement. For the first couple of dates, don’t make a stink about paying. It’s not cool if a girl expects you to pay all the time, but if a server hands you the bill at the end of the meal, don’t itemize her share. Additionally, don’t make yourself out to be a hero for paying for a $30 meal. It’s one thing if she insists on paying – let her. Otherwise, it is in good taste to pay. After a relationship is more established, it should be more equivocal.
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These are just a few rules to bear in mind. Games are fine if you’re 13 years old, but once women reach a certain age, it just becomes unattractive and unappealing. There’s a difference between being a rock and being a gem. And diamonds are a girl’s best friend.
