Tips for the woman receiving Cunnilingus Throughout the entire time that you are receiving cunnilingus focus squeezing your PC muscles (see below)and keeping your legs flexed. Squeezing your PC muscles will help you keep your mind focused on the genital sensations that you are feeling (and of course enhancing them by adding your own special form of self-touch). Flexing your legs will force you to tilt your pelvis forward, which generally enhances the position that you are in to receive better oral stimulation. Do not ask me for details on this one. I could not tell you exactly why the leg flexing works, I just know that most of my clients and even friends report that it enhances their sexual pleasuring.
Cunnilingus
Many novices begin cunnilingus (oral sex) by spreading the woman's legs apart and putting their mouth on her genitals. They then begin licking, sucking and nibbling the various parts of her vulva. The only technique used is one of pure luck. Whatever gets touched gets touched. Unfortunately for the woman receiving the stimulation, what often gets overlooked is the actual way the tongue is being used to arouse her. The partner often is so focused on covering all the genital parts and exploring that she/he forgets that it is not only what is being touched, but also the way it is being touched that is critical. Thus, to begin any kind of detailed discussion on cunnilingus requires a discussion on tongue usage. There are six primary types of tongue positions. Each tongue position has its own unique role in the art of love making, and of course, its own special exercise program to strengthen not only the tongue muscles, but also a person's voluntary control over its usage.
The next time that you are engaging in cunnilingus, pay attention to the way that you use your tongue. Try to determine which category of tongue technique you usually find yourself using. Why is that? Was that a conscious choice? Did your partner tell you that she likes it better that way, or this way? The next time that the two of you are together, try switching your tongue positions and see how that influences her reaction to your forms of touch.
The six primary types of tongue positions used in cunnilingus are the following:
*The sharp, wide tongue: To achieve this position, stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible, then try to touch your nose. Once you are in this position, hold the same muscle groups still and begin moving your tongue around. Practice five sets of three, moving the tongue first in circular motions, then up and down.
*The sharp, round tongue: To achieve this position, point your tongue while simultaneously trying to make the top of your tongue touch the roof of your mouth and the bottom of your tongue touch the bottom of your mouth. Once you are in this position, practice moving your tongue in and out of your mouth while keeping the tongue hard and round. For the more advanced student, try keeping your mouth closed and circling your tongue around inside of it, while of course, maintaining position.
*Flat, soft, wide tongue: To achieve this position, flatten your tongue in your mouth. Try to make your tongue rest gently on the bottom teeth. Once you have accomplished this, slowly, while holding the position, move your tongue outside the mouth. Practice curling the wide tip of the tongue upward, downward and side-to-side. This too, practice for five sets of three, while holding each move for 2 seconds.
*Flat, hard, wide tongue: To achieve this position, flatten your tongue in your mouth. Cover all your bottom teeth with your mouth. Using some force, try to explode your tongue in all the side positions. Using all the muscles in your tongue, try to move your tongue around. Move it both in and out of your mouth, while maintaining the position of evenly wide and hard.
*Upside down tongue: To achieve this position, turn your tongue upside down in your mouth. Then try sticking it outside of your mouth, all the while maintaining the position.
*Side curled tongue: To achieve this position, curl the two sides of your tongue until the two sides of your tongue touch each other. Then stick your tongue outside of your mouth. While maintaining position, practice circling your tongue clockwise and counter-clockwise. For the more advanced tongue student, try combining tongue positions. See if you can create some other ones that have not been included in this e-mail.
Take each tongue position (The sharp wide tongue, The sharp round tongue, Flat soft wide tongue, Flat hard wide tongue, Upside down tongue, Side curled tongue) and begin generically touching each part of your partner's vulva. This is actually harder than it sounds. Most often people find themselves forgetting to stay true to form and loosen up. This will not do. You must hold the position. Many people find that doing the tongue exercises, mentioned in the previous tips while touching a particular part of her vulva extremely helpful. As you go, as her if she likes choice A or choice B better. This will guide you to discover your partners likes and dislikes.
* Some people report that using flavored oils on your partner's vulva while doing these exercises can be especially rewarding for a hard workout well done!
Please note that while using your tongue to touch your own arm or your partner's vulva that your tongue may soon feel dry. This frequently happens and in fact, tongue position often is irrelevant. All six positions will have minimal influence on this situation (Sharp wide tongue/Sharp round tongue / Flat, soft wide tongue / Flat, hard wide tongue /Upside down tongue / Side curled tongue). However, there is a simple technique that you can use to eliminate this situation. Begin the lick with the tip of your tongue being moist/slightly wet from your own saliva.
After a few minutes of touching either yourself or your partner, your mouth will naturally start producing saliva. The key thing here is to always keep your tongue moist, without drooling. I highly recommend practicing on the different amounts of saliva necessary on your own arm first. One of the worst things is for a partner to play to rough on the genital area. Lubrication helps things continue to feel smooth. If you are having difficulty balancing the art of salivating but not drooling, try buying some flavored oils. One of the brands which are useful is called Hot Stuff. It comes in all flavors. This way, the vagina not only tastes like strawberries, or whatever flavor you choose, but there is enough lubrication that neither one of you need to worry about your tongue sticking.
Some women report that their favorite position for oral sex is to have their legs spread open with their partner kneeling in front of them. Others state that they are most excited when they are sitting on a table top, slightly slouched with their partner just barely reaching genital level. Furthermore, some women go crazy for the combination of sex toys with oral sex. This way they can receive multiple forms of stimulation all at the same time. Either way, I highly recommend experimentation using as many different creative positions imaginable to help increase not only your knowledge of how various positions influence each of your styles, but to spice things up a bit. Good sex involves a sense of pattern, often coming from an awareness of what turns your partner on, but a willingness to expand your brain to try something new that you haven't done in quite the same way before.
Now that the two of you are in position and are all ready to begin, you, the giver, will need to determine which of two extremes you would like to begin with. One is slow, geared to making your partner scream with impatience as you slowly tease her (i.e., touching everything but her vulva). This means spending an extra long time kissing, licking and nibbling her inner thighs, while slowly working your way up to where her legs meet. The other way is one of urgency. You need to touch her vulva without any further delays. You know that if you do not get your mouth on her lips immediately either you or she could pass out. With this style, there is no teasing, just direct genital stimulation. Both are equally important and have their high points.
Note that experimentation may bring up all kinds of feelings. Your partner could feel guilty that she likes your penetrating her with a dildo while licking her clitoris. Though the stimulation feels good, she may believe the use of sex toys is morally wrong. Lastly, maybe your partner is so blown away by the new experience that she does not have the language to express what she is feeling. Regardless of you or your partner’s reaction it’s ok. There is no "right" or "wrong" feeling. The point of experimentation is merely to explore each of your likes and dislikes. Once the two of you are able to identify what feels good, then the two of you will be in a better position to determine what types of behaviors you would like to further explore / practice.
Locating your PC muscle: The next time you are urinating, stop the urine mid-flow. The muscle that you used to stop the urine flow is the PC muscle. Once you have completed urinating, continue practicing squeezing that muscle.
Exercises for the PC muscle:
Squeeze your PC muscle and hold for the count of 5, repeat ten times
Squeeze your PC muscle ten times fast, repeat 3 times
Squeeze your PC muscle in intervals of long / short for a count of 10, repeat 3 times
Squeeze your PC muscle and hold as long as you can. Work your way up to 2 minutes.
If you are a woman, squeeze your PC muscles while placing your finger just inside your vaginal canal
If you are a man, squeeze your PC muscle, such that you are able to tap the tip of your penis against your stomach
Strong PC muscles directly correlate with lasting longer and strong orgasms. Therefore, it is in your best interest to strengthen your PC muscle through constant exercise. These exercises can be done at work, in a conference, at lunch or even during dinner. Furthermore, rapidly squeezing and relaxing your PC muscles during intercourse not only heighten your sexual responsiveness, but can increases your partners stimulation. When a woman squeezes her PC muscle, many men report feeling like the vagina felt tighter, like they had just received a 'hug'. When a man squeezes his PC muscle, many women report feeling like they felt extra pressure on the top part of their vaginal walls, and some even claim that their g-spot gets stimulated.
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PC exercises are one of the most important exercises you can do for penile fitness and strength development.
Having a strong PC muscle will enable you to experience a whole new level of ecstacy when making love with your partner. Imagine having the ability to actually make your erections ROCK HARD, and keep from ejaculating by simply flexing your PC muscle so tight it cut's off the ejaculatory canal. It's all possible! Please, follow the directions carefully, and as any exercise program, you should consult your Doctor and/or Urologist before engaging in any vigorous exercise, either to your penis or your body.
PC FLEXING AND STRENGTHENING_______
Warming up: Start out by flexing and unflexing at a steady pace for a good 30 flexes. At the end of the set, rest for 30 seconds. Continue with 2 more sets, resting for 30 seconds between each. After this is complete you should have better control over your PC muscle due to the increased blood flow.
PC Clamps: Squeeze and release over and over again. Start with sets of 30, and build yourself up to a set of 100 or more. Many women are able to do a single set of 700+ until they have to stop due to exhaustion. Your PC heals quite fast and you will find yourself waking up with ROCK HARD erections every morning! Make sure you do at least 300 PC Clamps a day for the rest of your life. You will soon find that it's the best move you could make for your sexual health and ability.
Long Slow Squeeze: Warm up with a set of 30 clamps then flex as hard and as deep as you possibly can. When you cannot squeeze any deeper, hold where you are at for a 20 count. Rest for 30 seconds. Repeat 5 times. After a month or so of exercising, you should be able to do squeeze and hold sessions for at least several minutes at a time. This particular exercise will give you absolute erections of STEEL and ability to last as long as you want in bed. Eventually work your way up to 10 sets of 2 minute long holds. It may sound like a lot now, but wait until you start to see the benefits! You'll be exploding across the room when you ejaculate! I've been told that it is this very exercise that has made Peter North so popular in the porn business!
The PC Stair Steps Workout: This exercise is simply tightening and loosening your PC muscle in increments. Begin to tighten your PC, hold, then tighten more, hold, a little more, hold, then tighten all that you possibly can and hold. Hold this for 20 seconds, then untighten a little bit, hold, untighten a little bit more, hold, a little more, hold, then finally release the rest. Do this 5 times with no rest in between.
The PC Tremble: Begin to tighten your PC muscle VERY slowly. SO slow in fact that it should take 5 minutes to complete. At some point you will feel that you can no longer tighten your PC but KEEP GOING! Go beyond where you think you can go. Keep tightening until your PC begins to tremble. Hold VERY TIGHTLY at that point and breathe very slowly and deeply for 30 seconds. At the end of 30 seconds tighten your PC even more, continually trying to gain new ground. When the burning becomes overbearing finally release and do 20 PC clamps. You should be very exhausted after this exercise. Do one set every day at the end of your workout.
